Archive for November 21st, 2009
Defining moments.
November 21st, 2009 | Author: Marissa
This entry was inspired by my entry What Me Thinks…
The people that we chose to be around us, more often than not, defines who we are. Our character is reflected by who we associate with everyday, because we tend to adapt to their ways. Their thought patterns and how they speak. We tend to take friends who have similarities with us, maybe they are fun to talk to, they eat a lot like you, a techie junkie like you. But whatever the case maybe, the bottom line is, you might also adapt not only their liking for something that you like too, but their bad habits as well. In some cases, personality types should also be one of our priority in choosing a friend, because these are the people we trust to keep our secrets, if not our lives too. I learned to be careful in choosing who I associate with, and now, experience tells me that, in order for me to have a successful friendship, these are what I should be looking for…
Transparency
A friend should always be transparent. This is what I’ve learned from my friendship with Lalaine. She is always truthful about her conversations with me, whether criticism or in giving me advices. However, most people do not really share your goal in life, and you can never expect people to be transparent, so be very careful in sharing your life’s most kept secret! And this also I learned, people are only mad at you because
Sincerity
If a person needs something, they should say it right there and then, no need to beat around the bush. And if should they feel something bad, something that they think is done to them unfairly, they should speak up directly to the person and not go about everybody who doesn’t even understand the situation.
A true friendship based on honesty and respect is bound to stay strong and long.
